Do you want to be married this June?
2013-Jun-04 15:10
2025-Jan-03 00:56
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June is a month most couples prefer for marriage.
And if you are one of those who consider getting married June, the following facts and tips might be helpful for you.
Settling down is not all about feeling in-love with your partner or just being financially ready. You and your partner must consider a lot of other important things. And don't ever think that knowing your partner so much is enough for you to enter marriage, for getting married entails serious preparations and planning.
Here are the following things you should envision before saying 'I do':
1. Money
Yes, for without it you won't have enough budget for the wedding preparations, the gown, motif, venue, church and catering service etc. Never expect your parents to help you out on your wedding expenses unless they volunteer. Before deciding to get married, you both must already be of right age and stable financially.
Yes, for without it you won't have enough budget for the wedding preparations, the gown, motif, venue, church and catering service etc. Never expect your parents to help you out on your wedding expenses unless they volunteer. Before deciding to get married, you both must already be of right age and stable financially.
Keep in mind that money, as it is a big issue even to individuals, can be also a big issue to couples. Some marriages didn't work out well only because of financial conflicts.
2. Emotional readiness
Now you may have the budget, but are you really sure and ready emotionally? Getting married is not something that you could decide on easily. If you are still unsure, then you should have some quality time alone, go on a vacation perhaps and enjoy your private time. You might need that since sometimes we tend to forget our own happiness only to attend on our partner's pleasure. Deal with your own happiness and contentment first. Then and only then you can be ready to attend to someone else's needs.
Now you may have the budget, but are you really sure and ready emotionally? Getting married is not something that you could decide on easily. If you are still unsure, then you should have some quality time alone, go on a vacation perhaps and enjoy your private time. You might need that since sometimes we tend to forget our own happiness only to attend on our partner's pleasure. Deal with your own happiness and contentment first. Then and only then you can be ready to attend to someone else's needs.
3. Spiritual Inclination
Do you have the same spiritual belief with your partner? This one is very important because the kind of wedding that you will be having will greatly depend on it- your beliefs. Religion/Spiritual inclination will also make a big impact on the life of you future family, from the laying of the foundations of your marriage to the practice of faith you parents will teach your children. Beliefs mold our own individual characters, and if your beliefs contradict each other, you might get a hard time leading your family to a particular direction/spiritual goal.
Do you have the same spiritual belief with your partner? This one is very important because the kind of wedding that you will be having will greatly depend on it- your beliefs. Religion/Spiritual inclination will also make a big impact on the life of you future family, from the laying of the foundations of your marriage to the practice of faith you parents will teach your children. Beliefs mold our own individual characters, and if your beliefs contradict each other, you might get a hard time leading your family to a particular direction/spiritual goal.
4. Residence
Where will you stay? This time you will no longer stay on your parent's house. And that should be one of the biggest consideration, so you really need to set this one. You need to discuss with your partner where will both of you stay, whether it is a condo unit, an apartment or a rent-to-own house. Hearing about couple-conflicts involving in-laws stem out from not having a house of their own, so you really might want to consider having your own abode.
Where will you stay? This time you will no longer stay on your parent's house. And that should be one of the biggest consideration, so you really need to set this one. You need to discuss with your partner where will both of you stay, whether it is a condo unit, an apartment or a rent-to-own house. Hearing about couple-conflicts involving in-laws stem out from not having a house of their own, so you really might want to consider having your own abode.
In choosing a house, you might also want to see if the place is near your work, the market places, hospital or transport terminals. These factors are beneficial for your everyday easy mobilization and convenience.
5. Kids
How many kids do you want to have? How do you want to raise them hands-on? Raising kids is one of the biggest decisions couples need to sit-down on. As future parents, both of you must talk about how to rear you kids. Will you be hiring a nanny? Will you consider home-schooling? Who between you will be tasked to take the kids to the doctor for scheduled check-ups? Stuff like that. Mind you, kids make a family, a family.
How many kids do you want to have? How do you want to raise them hands-on? Raising kids is one of the biggest decisions couples need to sit-down on. As future parents, both of you must talk about how to rear you kids. Will you be hiring a nanny? Will you consider home-schooling? Who between you will be tasked to take the kids to the doctor for scheduled check-ups? Stuff like that. Mind you, kids make a family, a family.
So there, if among those listed above still gives you doubt or a sense of lack of readiness, well, your plan of getting married might still need some thinking over again.