Getting married soon? Things you need to discuss with your partner before tying the knot

Are you planning to get married soon? Aside from the wedding preparations such as looking for the perfect dress, booking your reception, suppliers for flowers, food, cake, etc. you and your partner must talk about some important matters before tying the knot.

Indeed, marriage is such a big stage in any relationship because you are about to spend the rest of your life with the person that you love. This means that you both need to always be on the same page in order to make it work.

Always remember, communication is always the key, that is why it is very important for you and your partner to discuss some tough issues before getting married.

Here are the following topics that you and your partner need to discuss first before tying the knot to prevent future problems, according to theknot.com and crosswalk.com:

You and your soon-to-be husband or wife must discuss your financial setup and future expenses before tying the knot to avoid any misunderstandings.

Whether you will have separate bank accounts or joint accounts, you should know which accounts you will use for savings and expenses. It doesn't matter if the husband or the wife will handle the budgeting, delegate this to the one who is a money saver and a wise spender.

A licensed marriage and family therapist Vivian Jacobs said that "you just have to live within your budget, figure out what works for you, be reasonable and communicate."

How many kids do you and your partner want to have soon? Or do you want to have kids?

Rebecca Hendrix, who is also a licensed marriage and family therapist said that couples should also discuss their openness in adopting if it is necessary and how they will discipline their future children.

Aside from the number of kids, couples also need to plan on who will look after their children while they are at work and what school they want to enroll them in.

This may not look like a big deal right now; however, religion plays a big part in the marriage of some couples. "You might go into marriage not caring, but the problems start as the children arrive and you're deciding how to raise them," Jacobs said.

It will be helpful if you and your partner talk about your faith and how it could affect your marriage.

Everything should be clear for both of you. Couples who are planning to get married soon should talk about their expectations from each other to lessen disappointments.

It is recommended to talk about your roles in marriage, like who will manage the budgeting? Who will cook? Who will clean the house? This will not just lessen the fight but can also bring harmony to your soon-to-be home.

Whether married or not, it is normal for couples to fight sometimes. What should matter is how both of you would manage the issue. Hendrix said that make sure you understand each other's way of managing conflict.

She said that it would be helpful to know how your partner wanted to solve an issue. "Did one person refuse to talk, while the other couldn't sleep without resolving the issue?" she added.

Whatever your argument type, one of you should adjust to avoid further misunderstanding such as trying to pull back a little when your partner does not want to talk anymore.

Always focus on what should matter. Plan your wedding but also plan your marriage.

Don't forget to always make time for each other. Just because you and your partner are already staying in the same house, does not mean that you will no longer date and pamper each other.