Seven reasons why you are still single

Some people choose to be single for valid reasons. They may not be interested in investing in a serious relationship after being cheated on, while others remain single due to circumstances of their lives.

Whether it's been a month, a year, or a long period has passed after your past relationship, there are more reasons why people choose to stay single. Some want to focus on their selves, their career, or support their family financially.

But if you are still wondering why you have no romantic relationship right now, here are the several reasons why people choose to stay single, according to mindbodygreen and marriage:

1. You keep on choosing the wrong persons
Sometimes you get too blinded by his or her sweet gestures and you are being blinded by their red flags. This is one of the reasons why you keep choosing the wrong partners.

Don't jump into a relationship without knowing the person very well. Before entering a new relationship, you must make sure that you know your self-worth, because if you know value, you will not settle for anything less.

2. Dating is not your priority
All of us have our priorities and dreams in life. So maybe, one of the reasons why you are still single is because you don't make time for dating and it's okay.

There is nothing wrong with giving priority to the other parts of your life over dating. You get to choose what your priorities are and you must give time to your personal life before entering a new relationship.

3. You don't set any standards
Clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly, Ph.D. said, "At the opposite end of the spectrum, some remain single because they don't set the bar high enough – and some don't bother setting a standard at all."

To avoid dating the wrong person, you need to be careful not to have unrealistic expectations of partners. Some people stay single for a long period because they let other people cross their boundaries or disrespect them.

4. You're being too emotionally attached
There is nothing wrong with being in love but you have to avoid putting your emotional attachment to a person, especially if you are just dating that person.

Try to date several potential partners. Take note that there is nothing wrong with doing this. Just make sure that you inform your dates that you are not being exclusive right now. This will help you and give you time to know each of your dates healthily.

5. Your not-so-good experience holds you back
Sex and dating Coach Myisha Battle, M.S. said that "fear is one of the top reasons I see people staying single." Battle said that this includes "fear of rejection, fear of starting an online dating profile, and fear of putting their intentions to be partnered forward."

Don't force yourself to heal from the pain that you endured from a bad relationship. Take your time and once you feel that you are healed, step out and make new friends.

Try to leave the old bad memories and fears and make new good memories.

6. You have unhealed wounds
"Unresolved trauma often gets in the way of finding a loving partner," said Manly.

If you have unhealed wounds such as trauma can get your chance to pursue and move through relationships. These wounds can cause attachment issues, abandonment issues, trust issues, and more. "When we aren't aware of our internal challenges or aren't working to heal them, we often unconsciously push others away," says Manly.

7. You don't want to compromise
One of the reasons why you are still single is because you are not willing to adjust or compromise. You cannot force anyone to do everything your way, both parties should learn to adjust.

Meanwhile, aside from the list given above, some people choose to stay single because they could happily live without one.

"If you're asking yourself why you're still single, slow down to ponder why," Manly suggested. She said that you take a look at whether or not you truly like to be partnered or are just being pressured by the people around you to want a romantic relationship. (KBAPI)