How to deal with an unsupportive partner

Oh, how sweet to love and be loved by someone who cares right? You can feel that every problem, every obstacle, or every crisis that comes your way is bearable when you have someone to support you and have your back.

But what if your partner does not go that way? When they are emotionally not open and understanding to you, you feel completely different; you feel abandoned, lonely, unwanted, and rejected by that person you expect to be the one you share your life with.

We sometimes get confused in times like these if we are overly demanding over them or if there is something that needs to be fixed.

Are they the Nonchalant type or they're just unsupportive? Here are the Signs, according to Bustle.

It is important to be sure where the discomfort towards our partner comes from. We may be on the wrong side too. So how do we know if they are unsupportive?

1. They invalidate your feelings
You may hear from them something like, "That isn't a big deal, you are overreacting" or "You are too much." or "It's all in your head." Remember that your feelings are valid and those emotions deserve to be recognized.

2. They don't want tough conversations with you
Hey, we all know that "communication is key", and if they don't want to talk things over, how can you both understand each other and create a space for your relationship to grow?

3. They don't show up for you
According to Lauren L. Rigney, MS, LMHC, "By not showing up, they are not experiencing things that are special to you." Important things for you are best shared with the important people in your life, and when they often dismiss these moments, that may mean that you are not their priority in life.

4. They aren't happy about your successes
Also, they don't show interest in your goals, plus they make everything about them that they wanted you to become just a side character in their lives, and sometimes threatened on the thought of you surpassing them.

Toxic and ruinous-to-your-life relationships need endings. But this is not always the case, you have to acknowledge that relationships can also be saved when you acknowledge that both of you need to work it out together.

So how do we do this? Make sure they know what's bothering you, they may be blind to what's the problem. So you have to directly tell them what it is.

Then, admit your share of guilt. Partnership is done between two people, so if you only blame your partner for something wrong within your relationship, you are letting him sink all by himself.

It is also important to make sure that they don't misunderstand you, tell them all your worries and let them say what they think of you having those worries, so you know if they are getting what you wanted to convey, according to Marriage.

You may also seek professional help to see the situation outside you and discover perspectives to help you learn from.

And last, accept your problems, don't deny that there is something wrong, and don't pretend that everything is all right when it's already sinking.

With this attitude, you will be open to yourself, to your partner, and the people around you and it is easier for them and for yourself to look for ways and solutions to fix the problem. (Dairene Danielle Garcia)