7 reasons why you should not get back together again with your ex

Are you still thinking about your ex after your breakup?

It is normal to be reminded of the happy times you have had together and reminisce by looking through your old photos.

But it is not considered normal to get back together right after the breakup. As they say, healing takes time and so is moving on. You cannot just go back to the person who has broken you.

While the period after the breakup can be really hard, especially if you parted in a very toxic manner, you need a lot of time to think before rekindling a relationship you have chosen to end for many reasons.

Before texting or messaging your ex for the possibility of getting back together, kindly consider these:

1. Remember the reason you broke up

Maybe one of you betrayed the other or realized that you don't deserve each other. Whatever the reason for the breakup, always remember that you ended the relationship for reason. So think about, do you still want the same scenario in your relationship? Don't second-guess yourself.

2. Some things never change

Change cannot happen overnight. Don't be deceived by any kind promises. If you are in a situation wherein you doubt your decision, try to ask yourself why these changes did not happen during the time that you were still together.

Remember this: "If your ex didn't change for you while you were together, he/she will not change now."

3. You are stopping yourself from meeting someone new or better

This is the right time to stop thinking about your ex. The longer you hold on to the memories you had with him or her, the less chance for you to meet the right person. You broke up with your ex for a reason.

There is someone out there who could make you happy, don't settle for anything less.

4. It can be emotionally abusive

Since your ex may have taken you for granted before, what are the chances that he or she will not do it again when you get back together? There is no guarantee that your ex will not put you in the same emotional distress since he or she knows that you will come back despite the continuous emotional abuse.

5. Always wanting to get back with your ex is a red flag

It is either you are not yet over with your ex or you got into the habit of being in a toxic cycle. Both of these situations signal that you need to stay far away from your ex.

Don't let yourself get stuck in a relationship that keeps on destroying you. Do whatever it takes to resist and hopefully one day, you will have zero care or interest in that person.

6. You will experience the same cycle all over again

You might have observed other couples breaking up, being together once more, and then separating all over again. Yes, this is an unending cycle or loop that can happen to you if you keep on falling with the same person who broke you. Be strong enough to walk away from the person who hurt you and protect your mental sanity at all costs.

7. You're just thinking about the past with them and not the future

Whatever reason you have for wanting to get back with your ex may just be based on the past. If you keep on being invested in this kind of mindset, you are just bound to be disappointed.

You deserve someone who wants to build a future with you. The memories you have had with your ex are no longer applicable in the present or future.

Meanwhile, the possibility of forming a healthy relationship after getting back together with your ex is pretty low. Clinical psychologist Dr. Sherrie Campbell said that "there are rare cases where two people can be apart and work hard on the parts of themselves that contributed to the relationship failing and if their ex is still available things can sometimes work out."

"In most cases, there is a breakup because something was broken and not working in the relationship. The more people break up and get back together without truly fixing the problem, the breakups only become more and more painful each time, which makes it even more difficult to heal and move on," Dr. Campbell added.

Always believe that no matter what happened in the past, you deserve to be in a healthy relationship that entails affection, trust, good communication, and intimacy. Just give yourself enough time to heal and be happy again.