They say choosing the 'right one' is tough. But here are tips to easily find one:

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If you have been single for a long time or have never been in a relationship ever, finding the right person for you can be very complicated. Whether you have been in a bad relationship before or not, chances are you will no longer trust someone easily because of your past.
In fact, some people don't even try to find the right person for them because of the bad things that happened to them before. But at the right time and with the right person God will bless you with someone who is worth it and right for you.
Now, the question is how would you know if you find the right person and how can you guide yourself for it?
They say choosing the 'right one' is tough. But here are tips to easily find one, according to Huffpost and Modernman :
1. Know what you want
What are the characteristics that you are looking for in a partner? Make sure that when you date someone, you will never compromise your needs and wants just in order to fit in with that person.
Also, be aware of the red flags. Not because you are already starting like that person, you will tolerate his or her bad attitude. Try to check if you unknowingly exhausting yourself by adjusting to that person's needs to the point that you forgot to take care of yourself.
2. Don't make decisions out of fear
Some people are afraid of being alone and because of that they choose or decide to stay with someone that they are not happy with.
Know that you always have the choice and the right to walk away from someone who does not respect and care for you. Do this while you and that someone is just under the getting to know each other stage. Remember that you can never change someone who is not willing to change.
3. Be careful of jumping into a committed relationship right off the bat
It can be tempting to enter a relationship quickly when you meet someone who has a fiery connection with you. But, you have to be aware that you don't really know that person and you are already emotionally invested in someone that you don't know much about.
Knowing someone takes time because as time goes by, you will discover things that you don't really like or are not compatible with that person. It's important to remain grounded and patient when deciding to be seriously committed to someone.
4. Look for someone who has qualities of a good partner or friend
As they say, the basic foundation of a relationship is a good partnership or friendship. The qualities of a person that can last in a relationship are; empathy, integrity, honesty, reliability, kindness, and emotional generosity.
You will find out these types of qualities in someone as you spend time with him or her. Other criteria such as sense of humor, and good dancer are just nice-to-haves but don't necessarily have to be there for you to be happy in your relationship.
5. Be true to yourself
Choosing a partner where you feel like you can be 100 percent yourself with no judgment and complete acceptance is a wonderful and liberating feeling.
If you feel like this person you are currently dating will not accept you for who you are, then don't waste your time with him or her, leave immediately. Your soon-to-be relationship must be your safe and comfortable place where you don't have to keep a mask on.
6. Let it go
Don't be afraid to let go of someone you think is not worth staying for. The more you keep chasing after this ideal partner, the more you dart attention away from yourself, leading you to neglect your needs.
Make sure that you are really ready when you enter into a relationship. Don't let the pressure from your family and friends consume you in having a relationship or getting married soon. It's often the case that the more you try to find something or someone, the more that they'd elude you.
Enjoy the journey of singleness. Again, the less pressure you put on yourself, the happier you will be. Whatever happens make sure that you are showing your true self, so that whatever and whoever life throws at you, you'd never lose yourself.

Last Modified: 2022-May-05 18.58.02 UTC+0800