Feeling disappointed? Here's how to get over it

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Have you ever felt so down after experiencing rejections or failures in life? Disappointment is inevitable and it is always part of our lives, whether we like it or not.
Psychologist Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D said that "disappointment is a profound way in which sadness is experienced."
"People seem to do whatever they can to avoid recognizing that they are disappointed, and will twist their thinking every which way to not recognize a true disappointment," Lamia said.
While it is normal to feel disappointed from time to time, we all need to learn how to bounce back after experiencing failure and sadness.
Here are the following ways that can help you get over a disappointment, according to Harvard Business Review and Berkeley well-being Institute:
1. Let yourself feel disappointed
Don't stop yourself from feeling sad and frustrated about what happened because doing that will not help you to feel better. Stop denying and start accepting.
Give yourself time to grieve. Remember that getting over something that gave you pain is not easy, so be kind to yourself and don't be in a hurry.
2. Manage your expectations
Avoid expectations to avoid disappointments. Don't expect everything to turn out well. Some things are meant to fail and succeed and don't blame yourself for all the bad things that happen around you.
All you need to do is be ready for the possible bad scenarios in life. This is not to make you pessimistic but to help you to be prepared and avoid feeling disappointed.
Don't always expect people to always help you because, at the end of the day, the real friend you have is yourself.
3. Be kind to yourself
Again, not all the bad things that are happening around you are your fault. So be kind to yourself. Maybe that person you fell in love with is already in love with someone else or not yet ready to get into a new relationship, sometimes it is all about the timing. If it is meant to be, it will be.
No one is perfect, so avoid being so harsh to yourself. We all have our own stories and stop comparing ourselves to others.
4. Look on the bright side
"Remember, somewhere the sun is shining, and so the right thing to do is make it shine for you," Chet Baker sang in his 1956 Pacific Jazz album. Don't let the situation define you and bring you down.
While it is normal to feel sad and frustrated right now, try to look at the situation as an opportunity to learn and grow.
5. Give yourself a pat on the back
Again, it is all about how you value yourself. Always believe in yourself that whatever life throws at you, you will make it.
Forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made and learn from them instead of holding them over your own head. Thank yourself for being strong and resilient.
6. Always look forward
As they say, "there's a rainbow always after the rain." There is always a tomorrow to look forward to after a disappointment. We always have the chance to change and to try again.
Whatever happens today or yesterday is a lesson. The best way to recover from disappointment is to always look forward.
Try to surround yourself with people who uplift your spirit. Distract yourself and watch funny and feel-good movies and shows. Don't be too serious.
Always try to learn and grow from your disappointments. (KBAPI)

Last Modified: 2022-Jun-22 10.12.23 UTC+0800