Feeling angry? Here are ways on how to control it
Posted: 2021-Sep-09 16.07.38 UTC+0800
Anger is a normal feeling and it's okay to experience it sometimes because it helps you work on some issues or problems that you are experiencing at work or at home.
However, not controlling your anger or temper can be a problem, especially if it turns to aggression or physical altercations. When that happens, you will regret some of the things that you have said or done and worst, an apology may not be enough to mend it.
Also, having uncontrolled anger can affect your health as well as your relationship with your family and friends.
So, to avoid damaging your relationship with others here are some ways to control your anger or temper, according to healthline.com and mayoclinic.org:
1. Inhale and exhale
When you are angry your breathing becomes shallow which can speed up your anger. To avoid that, try inhaling and exhaling out of your mouth for several minutes before saying anything.
You could try walking or biking which can help you to relax your nerves and reduce the anger that you are feeling.
3. Listen to music that you love
Go ahead; let the music take away your negative feelings. A study published in musictherapy.org showed that even sad music can help in lifting our mood and some music can boost happiness and lessen our anxiety.
4. Take a timeout
You don't need to figure out everything right now. Take a break and try to sit away from others. Use this quiet time to process the things that happened. This can help you to be prepared for the things you need to face without getting angry.
5. Find solution to your issue or problem
Instead of focusing on your anger or temper, try to find ways to resolve your issues or problems to avoid further dilemma.
Always be reminded that your bad temper is not the solution to any of your problems and might only make things worse.
6. Look for immediate solution
Stop focusing on what makes you angry. Try finding solutions for the issue that you are facing. Use your energy to do something that's healthy and productive.
7. Prepare a calm response
After taking a time out, try to rehearse what you are going to say to the person you had an argument with to avoid storming out. Try to be calm in speaking with them as much as possible.
8. Don't hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Whatever you are feeling right now is temporary. Remember, no matter how bad you feel towards a person, things will be resolved easily and peacefully if you try to forgive them.
Some issues or problems can wait, so don't be in a hurry to react to them. This can help you avoid saying something that you might regret in the end.