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Six red flags you need to watch out for in a relationship

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Relationships are not always happy, exciting, and romantic and they will never be perfect. But how do you know when there is a "red flag" already?
According to a study, the "relationship red flags signify a reason to stop. Red flags are thrown in sports when a game is halted because of a foul, and they are waved on race car tracks when conditions are too dangerous to continue down the road."
Dr. Wendy Walsh, PhD, a clinical psychologist said that "in relationships, red flags are signs that the person probably can't have a healthy relationship and proceeding down the road together would be emotionally dangerous."
Some red flags might not be recognizable at first and some take time to realize it.
So, before it brings you so much pain and disappointment, here are the following red flags that you should watch out for in your relationship, according to Psychology Today and verywellmind :
1. Lack of trust and persistent jealousy
Trust is one of the most important foundations in relationships. It is very essential for you to look for a partner who is very honest with himself/herself because if they are not, it will be hard for them to be honest with you.
Licensed marriage and family therapist, Amber Trueblood, said that "often, the red flag of a very insecure partner looks like attentiveness at the start of a relationship, but there's an underlying control problem beneath all the attention. Later in the relationship, it's easier to look back and reinterpret that constant attention or overboard generosity as desperate insecurity."
2. He or she tries to control you
Your partner should let you do things that you love, like spending time with your family and friends. He or she should not control where you should go and what hobbies you are doing.
Always remember that when you love someone you let them be happy and grow on their own, it should never be controlling.
3. History of infidelity
Always be careful when you are in a relationship with someone who has a history of infidelity.
Although your partner is showing that he or she has changed already. You still need to check-in yourself if you are really comfortable in pursuing the relationship and if you can really trust your partner completely.
4. He or she displays abusive behavior
Any form of abuse whether it is verbal, emotional, psychological, or physical is a very big no and definitely a big sign for you to end the relationship.
Also, if he or she presents violence to anyone, stranger or even animals is a red flag, this shows that your partner has not yet known how to handle his or her emotions in a healthy way.
5. Irresponsible and immature
Make sure that you are ready when you get into a relationship. You or your partner should know how to take care of yourselves and to also know how to manage finances and schedule.
If your partner is not yet responsible and mature enough in planning their life and future, then it might be hard or complicated to rely on them for almost anything.
6. Alcoholism and drug addiction
Never be in a relationship with someone who has a reliance on alcohol and uses illegal drugs. This means that he or she has not yet figured out how to cope with their problems without altering their mental state.
It is very hard to change someone who is not willing and open to change.
Take note that the list above is not exhaustive; there could be other types of red flags that you might have encountered already without noticing it.
Always trust your gut and have the strength to walk away from your partner that exhibits red flags or warning signs, especially if he or she does not show any self-correction.

Last Modified: 2021-Dec-02 05.42.09 UTC+0800